How To Cope With Anxiety: My Tips!
Hey guys and girls!
Lately I’ve been struggling a lot with stress and anxiety, and because I know I’m not alone in this stupid anxiety boat I decided to write this post to give you my tips and tricks on how to deal with this.
Anxiety is an horrible feeling. It make us feel trapped, isolated, frustrated and misunderstood. It just sucks balls, am I right? And the worst part is that it gives us physical symptoms as well, tummy ache, racing thoughts, headache, ugh!
Not a long time ago Mr. M, my boyfriend, was driving somewhere and started to feel his chest hurting, his arm numb, and he was sure he was having a stroke at the age of 23. He, who’s usually the most calm person in this whole world, was terrified for his life. After all, it was “just” anxiety, the first time he had an episode. My heart aches for knowing that he too is driving these roads now. So as you can see from this little episode, anxiety can be very physical and despite that, you can have this symptoms after a depression, which is a totally different thing. Anxiety can strike out of the blue uninvited.
So if, like Mike, you are new to this stuff and don’t know how to deal with this, or whether you’re like me, an old friend of this ugly monster and sometimes don’t know how to deal with it, here are my tips which I really, really, really hope will help you coping.
Having a bath
I love baths and this is a great way of relaxation for me. Whether is a bubble bath, a bath bomb, a bath oil, I love to throw it all to the water and enjoy as much I can until someone knocks on the door 🙂
Listen to music
This is my main escape, to be honest. I’m very lucky for having a musician as a boyfriend so whenever I start to feel anxious I turn the music on and listen to him play the cello, or Hans Zimmer (he’s done Pirates of the Caribbean soundtrack, Man of Steel, The Dark Knight, Gladiator, Batman vs Superman, and a lot more), I also like to hear Lindsay Stirling, which I’m pretty sure you all know from her YouTube videos, and overall classical music, heavy metal and plain Irish folk rock.
I love reading even if I’m not anxious but I have to admit that if I’m struggling with a panic attack, I find very hard for me to focus on anything. So when the panic attack goes away and I’m left feeling horrible at the end, I enjoy reading. Harry Potter (duh), The Picture of Dorian Grey by Oscar Wilde or anything really. I don’t have a genre! 🙂
What about physical things Ella?
Well, something that helps me is sitting still and tighten and relax the muscles. But the best one by far is having a massage from someone that you love (after all a professional massage is not realistic for everyone) like your boyfriend, your girlfriend or even a friend you’re super comfortable with and having them talking to you in a soothing voice.
Talking to people is so important for you to feel better, because it allows you to unload everything you’re carrying with you. Having a nice network of supporting people is the best, but if you don’t have one, you can always talk to me. 🙂
Doing exercise in a healthy way, not in an obsessive way, like having a routine. It’s common knowledge that excercising is more effective than taking medication for stress and anxiety. So go for a run or ride a bike, or if you’re not very prone to do exercise why not trying Pokémon Go? It is fun and you do a lot of walking whithout even realising it! Last night me and Mike (or Mr. M, whatever you like the most) walked about 3 milles or 5km (depending on your country 🙂 ) and of course we hatched two eggs (because one was half way trough). Just don’t forget to have your eyes on the street instead of your phone and remember to wait for the vibration okay? 🙂
Calm yourself with smooth positive talk
Now I know that this sounds cheesy, but what if it was one of your friends going through anxiety? Or a child? We know how to calm everyone else, so why not talking the exact same way to ourselves? I, for instance, keep repeat for myself “I will get trough this!” and it instantly makes me feel a lot better!
Now I don’t mean for you to go on a diet or anything like that, however there are some things that you may be consuming that can cause you to be more anxious, namely caffeine and alcohol. So, if you’re going through times of anxiety, maybe try to cut down the coffee and wine? 🙂
Control your breathing
Breathing control is very important for you to actually calm down. One thing I always do (I have it recorded on my mind now) is to control it with this gif. Inhale and Exhale calmly.
Lavander is know for it’s calming properties. I have some lavender oil and I split a little on my sheets and on my pillows and it really, really helps me to calm down. Give it a try, you’ll love it!
I hope that this helped you control anxiety. Remember, you’re not alone in this!! If you need someone to talk you can send me an email to email@example.com or go over my Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook (@ellaivoire)! I’m always here for you!
See you guys next time